What did you expect? You haven't been with this enough to live with him, let alone live with him broke and pregnant WITH an adult you ALREADY disapprove of. I don't agree with all the Divorced senior want casual encounter erotic masage comments. It was dumb to get pregnant, but too late to change that. Given that you're going to be an unmarried mom, I don't anything wrong with roommates. I agree it'd be foolish to sell your house. I don't think the dad's gonna be a deadbeat, nor do I think your relationship is *necessarily* doomed. I do, however, think you're gonna be faced with far more difficult issues than you realize. So I don't think you should live with the guy UNLESS you tell him straight up that living with his is too much AND he's fine with cutting his loose. If he's not ready AND willing to do that, the SMART thing to do is live separately until the time is right. You're a MOM now. You're supposed to do right by your kid. That means maintaining a safe, sane, home. Ain't gonna happen if dad and his lil move in. It's OBVIOUS that's going to create more problems than it solves. Stand up for your and your sanity! You aren't constitutionally able to NOT want to micromanage dad, the, and their money. You know you don't like the way your bf parents his, deals with finances, and resists the idea of his helping with chores. THAT'S OKAY! The whole point is you don't have to put up with it. WAIT until the time is right and you two have worked out some of these issues. IF you have a decent relationship, it'll be fine: you know dad ain't going anywhere. RUSHING a relationship into an overtly stressful situation a situation loaded with boundary issues, loyalty conflicts, and financial stress is just plain dumb. And since you're pregnant, it's also irresponsible. Think about this sentence: “If he’s paying the $ room board, he doesn’t have to do shit.” Any idea how disrespectful that attitude is toward you? Any idea how fast that attitude get old? Why not have a serene earth mother pregnancy? Get a couple great roommates. your, but be self-sufficient and protective of your domain. Far better option than stressing over someone -'s kid's food bills. (which BTW are the teeniest tip of the iceberg.)